The Universe is Speaking to You

Updated: Mar 3, 2021

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We're always being guided.

And one of the chief ways that life speaks to us is through discomfort.

Pain in a certain way is kind of life's messenger. Right?

And I remember years ago that when I practiced asana in the morning

that I would get up and the first thing I would do is I would take a hot shower because I'm one of those people that after I go to sleep and I wake up in the morning, I feel like somebody snuck into my bedroom and replaced all my muscles with trick muscles that are three inches too short. So, a lot of pain, a lot of lack of mobility and all of that.

And I've always felt for a long time that well, I can't really do my Asana practice in this state, so I'm going to take a hot shower, loosened everything up and I can do my Asana practice.

And took me many years to realize

pattern of tightness and pain in my body was a roadmap.

What was needed? What parts of my body needed to be attended to? Cared for? Stretched? Opened? Breathed into? And every morning I had been erasing the roadmap and then just blindly doing a bunch of pre-programmed crap that I came to believe is the right thing for me to do because somebody in a book or a robe or a diaper told me that was the right thing to do.

You know what I mean, a clean one, a clean diaper.

And in the same way that I was operating on this pre-programming that I had been taught and trying to force myself to do that because it's the right thing.

We do this with our lives. I speak for myself. I've done this with my life a lot in the past, is that I have some pre-programming learned of what postures I'm supposed to do.

I'm supposed to do the posture called college.

I'm supposed to do the posture called a respectable job.

I'm supposed to do the posture called saving and being fiscally responsible. And all of these postures.

The fact of the matter is, is that sometimes what we're being taught isn't really appropriate for us in that moment.

But the best news is that we're always being guided

by largely discomfort when you're in the flow and things feel effortless and right that's you being guided that this is where you belong.

And when things are really difficult and uncomfortable and miserable, that's you being guided that maybe you need to adjust course a little bit. Now, don't take this to mean that you should have a nice, free, easy ride because there's difficulties and challenges in every endeavor, right?

So, life is not supposed to be free of difficulties and challenges, but there is a threshold at which it's becoming more and more clear that maybe you are not where you need to be.

And life is always offering these little clues.

Like even in the midst of one job, when I, when I worked with people one on one, and let's say that they're, they're miserable in their job, they come to me with a problem with collapsion. Remember collapsion right?

I hate my job.

Oh, do you?

Yes. I hate it.

What do you hate about it?

Do you hate the fact that you get a paycheck every two weeks?

Well, no, not that.

Do you hate the building that you work in?

No, not that.

Do you hate the person in the next cubicle?

Well, no, not that.

Do you hate the fact that you get to go help people solve their problems using your product?

Well, no, I don't hate that.

Do you hate the fact that your boss doesn't appreciate you?

That guy is a f*!#er!

Right. So, they don't hate their job. They hate being under appreciated and being treated wrongly.

And the feeling that they have in their body is because they're not in the right place with somebody who is growing them and nurturing them and appreciating them. And then life is speaking to them that way. It's inviting you to find someplace where you're appreciated, but the trick is that you have to deconstruct this collapsed experience.

It's not, the job is not one thing.

Your relationship is not one thing.

Where you live is not one thing, and we can go on and on and on and on and on and on.

Your family's not one thing.

They're made up of millions of little things. And when we are getting that guidance from the world, if the guidance is usually about something that is embedded within the whole, it's not about the whole and the degree to which we can get clear on what piece of the whole we're reacting to the more skillful we can be in our response.

And then with all of that as kind of a bedrock, we circle back to what Andrea was saying.