Everybody knows that inner peace is the key to divine communion. But did you know that bananas just might be your key to inner peace?
I know, it sounds...uh...bananas, (sorry, couldn't resist) but let me explain.
In India and in many other Asian countries, monkeys are caught using an ingenious trap consisting of a small cage with a hole in its side. The cage itself is too small for a monkey, but just the right size for a banana. The hole in the side of the cage is barely large enough for the monkey to get his hand through and take hold of the banana. And most importantly, the hole, while large enough for the monkey’s hand, isn’t large enough for a monkey’s hand when it's holding a banana. Get the picture?
The trap works like this: Monkey catchers hang these banana-filled traps all through the forest and when an unsuspecting monkey comes upon the trap, he sees the banana and of course thinks, “Hey look, free banana!” The hungry monkey then sticks his hand through the hole in the trap and grabs the banana. Now, because the hole in the cage is too small for the monkey’s hand and the banana, and because the monkey is unwilling to let go of his free banana, the monkey finds himself stuck.
Sometime later, the monkey catcher comes along to check his traps and seeing the monkey unable to free himself thinks, “Hey look, free monkey!”
He then walks up and collects his new monkey, who though terrified, remains steadfastly gripping his banana. Pretty cool, huh? And it is, unless you’re the monkey.
At this point, we might find ourselves amused by the monkey’s stubbornness and stupidity. From our perspective, his guaranteed freedom can be had so easily: simply let go of the banana that retails for a measly 27 cents. Yet of course from the monkey’s perspective, things are not so simple, for he has failed to make the connection between his grasping of the banana and his imprisonment. The relationship between his unwillingness to let go (of the banana) and his suffering (the loss of his freedom) remains outside of his awareness.
If only he could realize that this unconscious grasping will end up causing him a life of involuntary servitude garbed in a red suit and hat, prancing to cheesy organ music, and collecting coins from tourists, perhaps he’d let go. But alas he fails to make the connection; he fails to perceive the exorbitant cost of that banana. Poor monkey.
Yet I’ll say the same to each and every one of us: you poor monkey. For we all have bananas in our lives, bananas to which we stubbornly and desperately cling—a clinging that exacts a tremendous cost to our peace and ultimately our spiritual connection.
Our modern-day bananas, of course, don’t necessarily look like the monkey's bananas, and our traps don’t usually look like cages, yet the net effect is the same. Perhaps I’m doggedly holding onto an idealized belief of how my body should look that makes me feel bad everytime I look in the mirror...
Maybe I’m hanging onto a romanticized idea of what I should be accomplishing in life filling me full of regret...
Possibly I clutch an idealized notion of how the world should be leaving me feeling anxious and dejected... In each of these cases, I suffer, and not because of how things are, but because of how I think things should be.
Even worse, just like my little monkey friend, I likely miss the source of my suffering, blaming it on my body, my career path, or the conflict in the world, when in reality it’s my clinging to my thoughts, beliefs, and opinions that is the cause.
It’s my gripping of the banana that’s causing my dis-ease. Not the world.
Making matters worse, it’s not only with the larger issues in life that this grasping is at work, it permeates nearly every aspect of our day-to-day lives.
Rush hour traffic is a perfect example: Imagine yourself sitting on the freeway on your way home. The traffic which usually moves at 70 mph on this stretch of road is now moving at 14 mph. And as a result (or so it seems), you’re feeling a bit peeved.
At first blush, it seems that your suffering derives from the traffic, but when we look a bit closer, something else is revealed. Namely, moving at 14 mph is not a problem: we drive 14 mph or slower in school zones, parking lots, and driveways all the time and that doesn’t seem to send us off the deep end. So, if driving 14 mph isn’t the problem what is?
Of course, it's your grasping of the banana—the banana of expectation. Specifically, the problem has to do with the discrepancy between what is happening and what we think we should be happening. In other words, the expectation that we inject into our experience gives rise to frustration.
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